I couldn’t let go of our baby crib, even though I knew those days were behind us. So, I kept it. We moved it in 2003, and then it gathered dust in our storage room for nearly 15 years. By then, sentiment had dissipated, and I wanted the crib to be used.  So, we offered it in response to an appeal at our church. Digging it out of storage, I discovered that pieces of hardware were missing, and it dawned on me how old — and outdated — it was.
     A quick online search revealed that crib safety features had changed significantly several years earlier. Regret washed over me at the waste of having let it sit unused all these years. We bought a new crib for the person in need and eventually gave ours to a couple who wanted to repurpose the sides to make a decorative bench. (I don’t know if they ever did.) This experience shifted how I think about keeping or releasing things. The risk of an item becoming unusable in the future has become a consideration and helps me let go.
     With the passage of time, I feel a lot of compassion for my younger self who needed to hang on to a beloved artifact of her children’s early years. I don’t judge that past choice. It’s understandable, given where I was at the time. I’d found so much healing from the loss of my mom when I was a child through mothering my own children. I needed to keep that experience close to me through the crib, and I wasn’t equipped for deep reflection about it.
     This experience and others led me to create the Making Space workshop. If you struggle to release sentimental items from the past and you feel burdened by them (note: keeping things can also bring joy), the Making Space workshop can help. It presents processes to discern what to keep and what to release. It encourages curiosity and kindness to self in the process. Sign up for my newsletter to be notified of workshop dates.
Wood crib with baby whose face is obscured with a graphic